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feeling abandoned

emotions & feelings
feeling abandoned
feeling accepted
feeling accountable
feeling affectionate
feeling aggressive
feeling ambivalent
feeling angry
feeling anxious
feeling appreciation, feeling appreciated
feeling arrogant
avoidance -feeling the need to "avoid" something
feeling awkward
feeling balanced
feeling close
feeling curious
feeling depressed
feeling disappointed
feeling excited
feeling like a failure
feeling fearful or afraid
feeling frustrated
feeling happy
feeling hate
feeling hostile, experiencing hostility
feeling impatient
feeling indifferent
feeling joyful
feeling lonely
feeling in love... feeling loved.... loving
needed - need
feeling negative
feeling obligated
feeling open
feeling optimistic
feeling positive
feeling rebellious
feeling restless...
feeling sad
needing understanding - wanting to understand
feeling wounded
homer's brain for example...

to help you understand feeling abandoned:
your dictionary definition of:
a⋅ban⋅doned: it's an adjective
  1. forsaken or deserted: an abandoned building; an abandoned kitten.
  2. unrestrained or uncontrolled; uninhibited: She danced with abandoned enthusiasm
  3. utterly lacking in moral restraints; shameless; wicked: an abandoned and dissolute ruler.

when your parents get divorced....


It just plain sucks, doesn't it? When your parents are fighting all of the time all you can think of is -
"Why don't they just get a divorce?"
then they tell you that they're getting a divorce and all you can think about is why you want them to stay together.
My parents got divorced when I was 18 years old. They got divorced because of domestic violence. They didn't fight in front of me or my sister and brother; but they were very unhappy together. They never had much of a relationship. Then my father beat up my mother one weekend when only my brother was home. He heard the whole thing.
That had to suck, too. I am glad I wasn't there because I would have flipped out. I don't know what I would have done but it just wouldn't have been good. Maybe I could have tried to protect her or maybe it would have made things worse. It was just bound to happen because the tension between them was horrible.

we never thought that there were bad problems....




We never thought that there were bad problems between them because they never had fights or arguments. It was shocking when my dad beat up my mom. It was so bad she didn't even look like herself.
That was over thirty years ago. Now if there is domestic violence like that in a family - someone is going to jail. My mother would have never called the cops, but I would have. Maybe my brother would have too, if he knew that it was something that could have been done to protect our mom.
It seemed like my father abandoned us all when they got divorced. He got remarried right away and the woman had her own kids. He started spending all of his free time with that family and he never had time for me, my brother or sister. If we wanted to go over to his house and spend time with that whole family he would do that, but that was it. No alone time with dad.
I moved out when I was 18 because I got married. I felt abandoned by my dad because he told me I couldn't go to college and that all girls were good for was to get married and have kids. He laughed at my goals and told me that I would never be successful at anything besides being a mother and wife.



Your Feelings About Divorce

Usually one of the most stressful situations you will ever be in is if you hear these words from your parents: "We’re getting a divorce." No matter how much arguing, anger, hostility or sadness that precedes these words, it is always an emotional trauma for you and your family.

Despite the fact that you’re not alone (close to 43% of all marriages end in divorce), it is difficult to embrace the fact that your family is changing. You may be old enough to understand some of the reasons for the divorce but it is still not easy to accept your parents splitting up the family. Some of the feelings you may be experiencing include:

Feeling abandoned: "You must not want to be with me, either."

Feeling angry: "How could you do this to me."

Feeling responsible: "What did I do to make this happen?"

Taking control: "I guess I’ll have to be in charge now since my parents are so upset and irresponsible."

Feeling cut off from one or both parents: "They’ve got way too much to worry about besides me. I’d better take care of myself."

Worrying: "Probably I will never be able to have a long-term relationship either." "Now we won’t have enough money for college or a nice house or anything."

Getting a divorce is not something that anyone wants to deal with or even expects to happen to them. But if it does happen, remember that you will feel a range of emotions which may seem overwhelming at times. During this time, you need to talk about your feelings to someone you trust; your doctor, a relative, a friend, a teacher, or a sibling. Try to remain active and involved in school, any youth or sports organizations you were in, and with your friends and relatives. And remember, you don’t have to try to fix your parents’ relationship, take sides of one parent or the other, or become the adult in your household.

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